Dear Mr. Random Arrogant Stranger,
You know very well that you have just met me and
that you are just a random person that I happen to have the ungracious apathy
to meet on this particular, random day. I showed you the basic formal respect
like any normal, educated human being would show and in return, what do I get?
A humiliating and a disrespectful sneer form your mouth. Who gave you the
rights to just come to me and open up a conversation with the plagiarizing words
that not only makes me feel humiliated but also hurts me in a way that you can’t
understand because of your arrogance. You came to me and made a low-down
statement by calling me and my friends’ fat
and further attempted to bring down our spirits by stating that we don’t “work-out” enough. Who the hell do you think you are to call me fat to my face? And
don’t you know that it’s none of your business at all, to ask what I do with my
life? You just met me 5 minutes back and you think yourself as someone to whom
I’ll listen and talk about my weight issues. Are you my dietician or are you my
guardian? Just because you are old enough to be respected by the society, that
doesn’t give you any right to come up to young women like me and my friends and
call us fat. Did you really think that
while you made that fat statement, we all would cry our eyes out ask you advice
on losing weight? Did you seriously think that while displaying your utter stupidity?
I can see why you thought you could rule any women by your arrogance. While I
was giving you a piece of my mind on how to behave in public, I noticed your
daughter and your wife, standing behind you, silently and helplessly watching
you lose your face in public as I made sure people around us heard what a grave
mistake you had done today by coming up to us for no reason and calling us fat.
I guess you are so used to rule your conservative women at your home. But not
even for a minute did you think that outside your house, women are different,
strong and bold and that you are in no way capable to rule them with your
arrogance.
I asked you one question for which you were
incapable to answer and in turn that shut your arrogant mouth up. I asked, “Have you looked yourself in the mirror
lately? Do you really think you are so perfect that you can strut around with
your balding head and a pot-belly that you possess and can come up to me with
your imperfections and point out to me, my flaws?” Are you so blinded by
your arrogance that makes you think yourself as a superior man and makes me and
my friends less superior and hence we should be called by the word “FAT”? Even
as I asked you these questions, there you were, still arguing with me that “as
a human being, you had to make that statement to make me realise how much I
weigh”. FYI MR. Arrogant-bald-headed-man, I know very well about my body nature
and I don’t need some random third person to come to me and point out my flaws.
This is modern society mister, so stop being so blindly stupid. Long gone are
the days where you could have your way with women. If you don’t show me respect, you sure as hell won’t get any respect
from me. Just because you are old enough to be my dad (which you incidentally
stated while I was ripping your arrogance apart with my words), that doesn’t
make you genetically my dad, does it? And don’t you even for a minute compare your
lousy self to my dad, because if my dad were to be here while you made that
statement, he would have literally punched you in the face. This is a fact and
I’m one hundred percent true in my words, so stop arguing with me further,
uncle ji. I was blatantly euphoric to have further shut your arrogant mouth when I asked you, “If some random guy
came up to your daughter and called her a slut, would you have kept quiet?” You
may not have called me any bad names, but making a statement about my body is
just as bad. In fact, it’s worse.
You saw only my physical exterior and thought
yourself as a god who would grace upon my soul and make me realize how
unhealthy I am and in turn you dreamed yourself to be my saviour by imagining
that I would fall to your feet and tell you in a teary voice, “Uncle-ji you
have opened my eyes, I never realised that I was fat, until now. Thank you for
calling me fat, I will lost my weight and I will always remember you for
opening my eyes”, I guess that’s the attitude you posses. By now you must know,
that I don’t give a rat’s fart for people like you. I know very well what I am
and I don’t need a lecture from you, you random moron. I know what I’m going
through and I very well know what I’m doing with my life to stay healthy. And incidentally,
this is not at all the point for this post. This post is about you and your
arrogance and how not to cross your limits with women or any other person for
that matter. Learn to show some basic respect Mister “know-it-all”. Only then
will people respect you back. And when you finally realised that you lost your
argument and shamelessly excused yourself, without even an apology, your daughter
came up to me and apologized to me on your behalf. You should be glad to have a
daughter like that who cleans up your mess after you. I pity your wife and
daughter, who are currently living, helplessly under your arrogant shadow.
I was happy to have humiliated you because you
deserved every word I said today, but none of those words were rude but strong
enough to pierce your icy arrogance. You should be glad that you don’t
understand Kannada, because as you walked away, my friends called you names
that would have made your mother wish that she had never given birth to you.
The next time you decide to speak your mind without
thinking in front of a person, I’m sure you will remember me and my words.
Yours most truly,
A
strong, independent woman.
Well written... ideally, no one should pass cutting comments on the appearance and weight of another. It erodes the self-esteem.
ReplyDeleteYeah, self-esteem will definitely be lowered if girls are too sensitive and self-obsessed. But this society will crush those poor souls who can't defend themselves. I say, the biggest defense mechanism for any person, is to stand up to ourself and always have the last word, in cases like these.
DeleteI've heard the phrase to pay back in one's own coin. Women should start reacting strongly during adversities. But dragging his daughter into the whole conversation was unnecessary and balant. That leaves no difference between you and him!
ReplyDeleteFirstly, I never "dragged" his daughter into anything and secondly, you are missing the whole point of the post. I'm rightfully angry on the daughter too because, she knew what he said was wrong and yet, she only mastered the courage to apologize only after her dad was out of ear-shot. And from one woman to another, she knew she could have intervened in the middle of the argument but she didn't. Maybe even I became rude in the end, but the guy asked for it. Long gone are the days where I would try to "ignore" the random comments thrown by random strangers for no reason whatsoever.
Deletenice post..well its not only about weight gains, unnecessary criticisms can never win some one's heart..well written post:)
ReplyDeleteWell written. Boy, That has a lot of anger and fury :) I understand!
ReplyDeleteNim friends yella seri baayige banda haage baidra? Hahhahaha
ReplyDeleteWould have loved to read a little background for this post Neha.
Baayige banda ge ne baibekaaitu. Inthavranella sumne hogli antha bidabaardu.
DeleteGood thing u kicked his ass..what a loser!
ReplyDeleteWhoah Cool down girl :)
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gud thing done neha :)
ReplyDeletechk this one out too ..... and provide your valuable feedback
http://saurabhchawla2345.blogspot.in/2012/06/framed-lover.html
I agree with Mak, that is, the English part of his comment Please write the prequel too!
ReplyDeleteho ki raha hai duniya wich..
ReplyDeletei mean, how come people presume the right to make sheer comment like this.
whatsoever, you gave him deserving reply.
TIT for TAT.
Keep it up
@ Mak & Umashankar, there is no prequel to this post. I have just narrowed down the details and high-lighted the "arrogance" some people tend to carry about in this society. This happened recently when I & my friends were on an outing. We met this man who was rude to us and he thought he could have his way with his rudeness. But as it turns out, I had my way with my words.
ReplyDeletePowerful..strong..sensible and yet cool!
ReplyDeleteA very nice post, Neha:)
Your letter resemblance to “A open letter to Delhi Boy”…lol…:P
ReplyDeleteI feel that no person should walk up to another and dish out unwanted advice.
ReplyDeleteI think you over reacted ..... just my feeling! Going out of the way and calling names to his daughter was too much.
ReplyDeleteI agree that uncle ji was wrong but again wats the point of stooping to his level ..!
I was making a point for him to understand. I had to be harsh because because the man was in utter denial that what he had said was "normal". And if defending my self-respect with an argument that serves its purpose is called as over-reacting, then I'd rather over react than just let people like him think they can have their way with their rude arrogance.
DeleteEwww...that was a strong letter, Neha !So well penned and appropriately served :))) Wish, I were as strong as you...! Kudos...
ReplyDeleteThanks ma'am. I wrote it in a spur of anger though. I normally hate spreading negativity but I couldn't let this one go. I'm not really that strong per se, but I'm getting there. :)
DeleteVery good post Neha! It really packs a punch and the words are really well chosen. I almost feel vicarious satisfaction seeing an arrogant bastard get what he deserves! :-)
ReplyDeleteSend it!
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